If you’ve sat in your GP’s office, listed your symptoms, suggested it might be perimenopause, and been told you’re “too young” — you are in the company of hundreds of thousands of Australian women. You’re not being dramatic, and you’re very likely not too young. Here’s what’s actually going on, and what to do next.

Why this keeps happening

Perimenopause most commonly begins in the 40s, but it can start in the late 30s. Because the classic image of menopause is “around 50”, symptoms in younger women are often attributed to stress, parenting or burnout. Routine blood tests can add to the confusion — hormone levels fluctuate so much during perimenopause that a single test often comes back “normal” even when your symptoms are very real.

What the evidence actually says

For most women in the typical age range, perimenopause is a clinical diagnosis — it’s based on your pattern of symptoms and changes to your cycle, not on a one-off blood test. That means a “normal” result does not rule it out. Recognising this is the difference between being sent away and getting support.

How to advocate for yourself

1. Track your symptoms and your cycle for a few weeks so you can show a clear pattern
2. Bring a written list to your appointment — including mood, sleep, periods, energy and any new physical symptoms
3. Ask directly: “Could this be perimenopause, and can we discuss management?”
4. If you don’t feel heard, it’s reasonable to seek a clinician with specific training in menopause care

How The M Clinic can help

The M Clinic is doctor-led by Dr Kelly Needham, a registered member of the Australasian Menopause Society. We’re here for the woman who’s been dismissed or told she’s too young — to listen properly, assess your symptoms, and talk through your options. We consult in-clinic on the Central Coast and via telehealth Australia-wide.

Talk to a menopause-trained doctor

You don’t have to work this out alone. At The M Clinic, Dr Kelly Needham and our team provide doctor-led perimenopause and menopause care — taking the time to listen, assess your symptoms properly, and build a plan that suits you. We see patients in-clinic on the Central Coast and via telehealth Australia-wide.

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Dr Kelly Needham is a Women’s Health Doctor and the founder of The M Clinic at Coastal Goddess. She is a registered member of the Australasian Menopause Society.

This article is general information and is not a substitute for personalised medical advice. If your symptoms are affecting your daily life, please speak with your doctor. If you’re really struggling or ever feel unsafe, please call Lifeline on 13 11 14.